Therapeutic Philosophy · United Kingdom

My Therapeutic Approach

Therapy that starts from how your brain actually works — not from how it was supposed to.

IFSSomaticSchema TherapyTrauma-InformedPolyvagalACT

Philosophy

One purpose. Many paths.

I don't apply a single model. I integrate. In practice, that means moving naturally between different frameworks — guided not by protocol, but by what your nervous system is asking for right now. Sometimes we work with internal parts, sometimes with the body, sometimes with thought patterns. What drives every choice is what actually works for you, not what a textbook prescribes.

What holds it all together is one filter: the neurodiversity paradigm. I'm not looking for what's "wrong" — I'm understanding how you actually function and building from there. Your patterns aren't defects to fix; they're adaptations to understand.

01

Lived, not learned

I'm autistic and ADHD. Every tool I use has been tested on my own nervous system first. I know sensory overload, executive function crashes, and masking fatigue — from the inside.

02

Your pace, your rules

Need a movement break? Written instead of verbal? Longer silence to process? The session adapts to your nervous system in real time — not the other way around.

03

Strengths first

"How does your brain work and what does it need?" — not "What's wrong?" We build from your actual cognitive strengths and processing style, not from a deficit checklist.

04

Safe to unmask

Stimming, silence, non-linear thinking — all welcome. No forced eye contact, no performance of "normal." Your authentic self isn't just tolerated here — it's the starting point.

What this looks like, concretely

Two interactive perspectives on the principle above: neurodivergence as a spectrum with many dimensions, not a line, and the same person described in pathologising or affirming language.

About the spectrum

The spectrum is not a line

Neurodivergence does not run from "mild" to "severe". Each person has their own profile, with different values across several axes. Pick an example and watch the shape change.

SensoryprocessingSocial energyAttentionstyleNeed forpredictabilityCommunicationstyleSelf-regulation

Example A. Deeply monotropic attention, small social reserve, intense sensory processing.

Sensory processing
seeks inputhigh sensitivity
Social energy
small reservelarge reserve
Attention style
multitropicdeeply monotropic
Need for predictability
flexibleroutine matters
Communication style
direct, verbalnuanced, nonverbal
Self-regulation
subtlevisible, frequent

Profiles are illustrative, not diagnostic. Two autistic people can have completely different shapes.

Neuro-affirming language

Same person, two languages

The same traits, described two ways. Drag the slider from left to right to watch pathologising language turn into language that names the difference and the support need.

Pathologising languageAffirming language
  • Attention
    Pathologising languageHas an attention deficit and cannot focus on anything.Affirming languageAttention shifts quickly; with genuine interest and the right environment, focus runs deep.
  • Socialising
    Pathologising languageLacks social skills and avoids people.Affirming languageCommunicates differently and needs relationships where masking is not required.
  • Reactions
    Pathologising languageHas meltdowns and challenging behaviour when overwhelmed.Affirming languageThe nervous system becomes overloaded; an unspoken need asks for space and support, not punishment.
  • Sensory
    Pathologising languageIs oversensitive and overreacts to ordinary sounds and lights.Affirming languageProcesses sensory input intensely; the right environment prevents overload.
  • Change
    Pathologising languageIs rigid and cannot cope when plans change.Affirming languageFinds safety in predictability; transitions go better with a heads-up and time to prepare.
  • Empathy
    Pathologising languageLacks empathy and doesn't pick up on other people's feelings.Affirming languageFeels deeply and shows care in their own way; reads connection differently.
  • Passions
    Pathologising languageHas obsessions and restricted interests.Affirming languageHas focused interests and intense passions that bring energy and meaning.
  • Self-regulation
    Pathologising languageHas odd repetitive movements that need to be stopped.Affirming languageSelf-regulates through movement; a natural resource, not something to correct.
Pathologising languageAffirming language

How Therapy Works

1

Initial Consultation (free)

A 20-minute session to get to know each other, see if we are a good fit and clarify what brings you to therapy. No pressure, no commitment.

2

Assessment and Goal Setting

First 2–3 sessions: we explore your history, understand the context and set the direction of therapy together. What do you want to change? What do you want to understand better?

3

The Therapeutic Process

Weekly 50-minute sessions. We integrate various modalities adapted to your needs. Progress is not linear — there are moments of insight and periods of consolidation.

4

Review and Adjustment

Every 6–8 weeks, we review progress and adjust the direction if necessary. Therapy adapts to changes in your life.

Therapeutic Modalities

A whole-person approach — built from the inside out.

Each modality has been chosen and integrated through the lens of how a neurodivergent nervous system actually works — not how textbooks assume it should.

Not one method. The right combination for you.

In a single session, I might use Polyvagal awareness to read your nervous system, IFS to meet the part that showed up, ACT to untangle a thought spiral, and hold all of it in unconditional regard. These aren't separate tools — they're one conversation, guided by what you need right now.

Integrative doesn't mean eclectic. It means precise — choosing the right lens for the right moment, for the right nervous system.

Body-based
Somatic Approaches · Polyvagal-Informed
Cognitive & Values
ACT · DBT · Schema Therapy
Relational & Self
IFS · CFT · Person-Centred · Trauma-Informed

Practical Details

Location
Online only (video) — United Kingdom
Session length
50 minutes
Frequency
Weekly (recommended) or fortnightly
Languages
Romanian and English
Online platform
Google Meet (secure)
First session
Free 20-minute consultation

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The first step is a conversation. Let's see if we are a good fit.

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